Valentine’s Day was not originally all about romantic love, but during the 14th century, it started evolving into a day in which lovers expressed their love for each other by way of flowers, sweets and notes of love.
I personally love a day that celebrates love but feel that it somehow gets lost in the ‘gifts’ and having to buy something for our love, begrudgingly. Why not give ‘gratitude’ this Valentine’s Day! If you are going to purchase something for someone special, give that gift with a true sense of gratitude so that the love can really be felt, by including a gratitude note or telling them how grateful you are to have them.
My husband and I celebrate Valentine’s Day every day (I know that sounds cheesy). We really do celebrate our love for each other but without having to buy things. Our relationship has grown so strong and I feel it comes down to our gratitude for each other and openly expressing that.
In my own gratitude journals over the years my partner has appeared almost daily. We can get swept up with all the things they do that irritate us, or all the things they ‘don’t do’, but if you start looking out for the good you will be surprised how much there really is.
“Simply saying ‘THANK YOU’ to a spouse can create a virtuous cycle of gratitude, where each person feels more appreciated and happy. It will help you feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve your health, plus help you deal with adversity and build stronger relationships”
According to a 2012 study published in the Journal of Personal and Social Psychology
Say, ‘thank you’ to your loved one, for all that they do. Give them a kiss in the morning to start your day on a positive note and celebrate Valentine’s Day every day in your relationship. Use gratitude with your partner and watch as your garden of love grows into something others are envious of.
If you don’t have a partner why not celebrate Valentine’s Day with other people that you love. Tell your parents how grateful you are to have their love or a sister or friend. Celebrating love of all kinds should be encouraged every day but I love that a day is set aside for us all to be reminded of that.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
My personal note to my husband:
Thank you so much for all you do.
Thank you for working so hard to provide for our family.
Thank you for loving our children.
Thank you for loving me.
Thank you for all the laughs you give us.
Thank you for showing us how to laugh at ourselves.
Thank you for being an amazing role model to our children.
Thank you for all you do for my extended family.
Thank you for always being so generous to us and others.
Thank you for letting me be me, flaws and all.
Thank you for being my biggest believer, my cheerleader, my inspiration and the person I can always talk to.
Thank you for all the times we stay up talking into the small hours about our dreams and our deepest thoughts.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!